God's Exquisite Garden
TAMING THE TONGUE
The scripture has much to say about taming the
tongue, or controlling our speech.
In James 1:19 we find "So then, my beloved brethren. Let every man be
swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath, slow to wrath:"
If you look in Proverb 25:11 we find -"A word fitly spoken is like
apples of gold in settings silver."
We see in Proverbs 15:23- " A man has joy by the answer of his mouth.
And a word spoken in due season, how good it is!"
The truly good man is slow of speech.
Does not the difficulty of deciding what is right to do
necessarily imply slowness to speak? Confucius
This manner of speech in a Christian, is full of
indiscretion and irreverence... Michel de Montaigin-1580
Speak the truth and shame the devil. Miguel de
He who does not bellow the truth when he knows the truth
makes himself the accomplice of liars and forgers.
A TONGUE WITHOUT A GUARD UPON IT IS LIKE A CITY WITHOUT A WALL-
WE CAN EXAMINE WHAT GOES INTO OUR MOUTHS, AND WHY NOT WHAT COMES OUT OF
WELL . John Bona,Guide to Eternity, 1672
To everything there is a season, A time
for every purpose under heaven:
A time to be born,
And a time to die;
A time to plant,
And a time to pluck what is planted;
A time to kill,
And a time to heal;
A time to break down,
And a time to build up;
A time to weep,
And a time to laugh;
A time to mourn,
And a time to dance;
A time to cast away stones,
And a time to gather stones;
A time to embrace,
And a time to refrain from embracing;
A time to gain,
And a time to lose;
A time to keep,
And a time to throw away;
A time to tear,
And a time to sew;
A time to keep silence,
And a time to speak
Conversation is a very important element in a
man's personality. Not
only is what one says important, but also he says it.
For good or ill, your conversation is your advertisement. Every time
you open your mouth you let men look into your mind. Do they see it
well-clothed, neat, business-like?
Silence is one of the great arts of conversation.
Carefully note these helpful hints for improving your
conversation: Enunciate your words distinctly and accurately. Cultivate
a pleasant quality of voice. Be simple, direct, and sincere. Frequently
replenish your lungs. Open your mouth well. Avoid loud talking. Favor
the low keys of your voice. Correct any faults or defects in your
speech. Speak deliberately. Use the best language at your command.
Cultivate honesty in your expression.
From DISTILLED WISDOM - compiled and edited by Alfred A. Montapert. A
copy of this book is in my library.
This next section is from the book - HERE A LITTLE AND
LITTLE- by Pauline Cain Hatcher. A copy of her book is in my library.
The copyright date is 1991 and the copyright was made by Pauline
Hatcher. This was used by permission.
The doctor often says to us,"Let me see your tongue."
He can tell a
a lot about our health by looking at it. In the same way, much can be
told about the health of our thoughts by our tongue because the tongue
speaks the thoughts of the heart(Matthew 12:34). What our tongue says
lets people know what we really are.
In the Bible, God describes the tongue in at least eight
different ways: three descriptions are very good, five are very
destructive, It must be much easier to use our tongue in the wrong way
than to use it in the right way. The evil descriptions are (1)
razor-Psalm 52: 2, (2) fire-James 3:6, (3) poison-James 3:8, (4)
sword-Psalm 64:3, (5) arrow- Jeremiah 9:8. The good descriptions of the
tongue are (1) silver- Proverbs 10:20, (2) health- Proverbs 12;18, and
(3) tree of life- Proverbs 15:4
The Bible teaches that the tongue is the most difficult
thing in our life to control. In fact, if we could control it, we would
be able to control every other thing in our life(James 3:2-12). We are
told that the tongue can never be tamed by man. But with God's help we
can bridle it just as we put a bridle on a horse to guide him in the
direction we want him to go.
How we need to make the same decision about our tongue that David did
in Psalm 39:1, said," I will take heed to my ways, that I sin not with
my tongue: I will keep my mouth with a bridle, while the wicked is
before me." We also need to pray the same prayer he prayed in Psalm
141:3, "Set a watch, O Lord, before my mouth; keep the door of my lips"
There is an appropriate time in which words
should be spoken. Some
words need not be said, if we think what a impact they will have on our
character. All words have an impact on our character. We read in
Matthew 12: 36 - "But I say to you that for every idle word men may
speak, they will give account of it in the day of judgement."
EVALUATE YOURSELF, OTHERS WILL
Also in Colossians 4:6 we see - "Let your speech always be with grace,
seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each
Another time Solomon wrote,"There is he that speaketh like the
piercings of a sword: but the tongue of the wise is health."-Proverbs
If someone you know (or perhaps a stranger in the stores) had to choose
one of those phases to characterize your tongue, which would they
select : "health" or "the piercings of a sword"?
The way we converse is our advertisement, whether it is for
good or for bad. Each time that we open our mouths, others are allowed
to look into our hearts (Matthew 12 : 34). This is the reason why Paul
challenged us that we"Only let your conduct be worthy of the gospel of
Christ..."(Philippians 1 : 27 ). The words that we choose to use will
be judged by Christ, (Matthew 12:27), but so will those we come in
The preceding section is paraphrased and the thoughts
are taken from the book -WHAT DO YOU COMMUNICATE?- by Sandra Humphrey.
Conversation is the vent of character as well
as of thought.
So much to say. And so much not to say; some things are better left
There is a grace of kind listening, as well as a grace of kind
from "The Book of Wisdom"
"Whoso keepeth his mouth and his tongue
keepeth his soul from troubles.